We are 18 Days into the New Year!

What a fun time of year! It’s such a great time to reflect and think about what is working and what is not working. It’s also a prime time to set weight loss goals and diet surf to find the perfect, magic, sure-fire diet that will finally do it for you.

With the New Year here it’s easy for many to get tempted to set ridge resolutions like: “This year I am really going lose this weight. I am going to do it all! No matter how much I suffer I will go on my no sugar, no gluten, no eggs, no food diet starting Monday.”

Any of that sound familiar? Too many years were started off this way for me as well only to find myself devastated from another diet failure and stuck in diet backlash overeating by mid-February.

Until I decided to do something different.

It can be very helpful to use the natural momentum of this time of year to be inspired to change in 2018. Just make sure that there is not a false high feeling from getting back into the all or nothing, perfectionist diet mentality. No need to lose the weight in an all or nothing way. You’ve done that 10, 20 years or more, it hasn’t worked. Let’s do something different this year.

Resolutions can be are very rigid and not supportive to the emotional eater who is trying to release the weight for good. Resolutions are very all or nothing. It has a sense of “never again, ever will I do…” You either hit the resolution perfectly or you don’t. Success or failure. Too stressful!

So instead of resolutions, I encourage you to set INTENTIONS for this year. Maybe it is just one area of life where you hone in on. Small shifts in behavior can create big results!

So instead of that resolution, “I will to lose 50 pounds this year. I will stick perfectly to my new diet.”

• Ask yourself: Why?
Why do you want to lose weight?
What is the feeling you will have by being 50 pounds lighter?

Let’s say you want to feel more confident more attractive in your body.

Turn this into an intention: ‘This year my intention is to create more health and vitality so that I feel more confident and attractive in my body. I will choose to eat healthier more of the time by adding in more healthy meals and moving my body more to achieve that. One step at a time, one day at a time I trust my transformation will happen!’

Intentions help you to live out of the extremes of the all or nothing mentality. Getting out of the extremes is where LIFE HAPPENS and permanent weight loss happens. Intentions ground you in the PRESENT and CONNECT you to what the underlying feeling is which will INSPIRE you to be willing to achieve your intention, one step at a time.

You got this!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Here’s to a year of INTENT!

With Love Always,
Emmie Perez

Emotional Eating Coach - What is emotional eating?
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“I don’t want to be fat anymore but I don’t want to do the work to lose the weight. I am just stuck! How do I get motivated again?! I need something to get excited about. Something to motivate me or do it for me.”

Here is the truth, you cannot buy motivation.

There is no magic weight-loss pill that will do it for you. You cannot buy a ‘quick fix’. If you truly have an emotional eating problem that is causing you to hold on to extra weight, then another quick fix will not work, not as a long-term solution, anyways.

I know that this may not be what you want to hear and you may be tempted to stop reading. But I am here to be honest with you and share the truth that I learned in my own personal recovery, as well as helping hundreds of women over the last eight years find freedom.

I am not here to sell you on another ‘quick fix’ system or diet that gives you a false high that it will ‘fix’ you or do it for you. Are you thinking: “If I could just stick with it, it would work though.” I know. I get it. It is natural to want to take a fast path. I am here to tell you the truth.

If you have an emotional eating problem, the emotional eating problem is WHY you are not able to stick with a diet or weight-loss plan. We need to get to a permanent solution, overcoming emotional eating, together.

Anchor Statement

“Just for today, I’m going to acknowledge that the quick miracle fixes from my past aren’t going to help me. Just for today, I am going to choose to recognize that I deserve the kind of honesty Emmie is offering because a part of me knows I’m worth it and I want a permanent solution.”

Would you like to ask some questions, share your struggles and come up with solutions together? Reserve a FREE Discovery Session to see if weight loss coaching is a good fit for you. You don’t have to do this alone!

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“Why try again? I have gained the weight back too many times!”

“What makes this time any different? I have failed so many times, I am not worth the effort or the money to do this again…I will just gain the weight back anyways.” Sound familiar? Depending on how many times you have lost the weight and gained it back you may absolutely have lots of reasons not to try again. You may even have plenty of reasons that you are not ‘worth it’ to take the time, and do what it takes to release the weight for good.

I understand that it can be scary trying again. You even might be thinking: “What if people see me lose the weight and I just gain it all back again plus more? I just can’t stand the embarrassment one more time! I would rather just stay fat.” Or, you may be thinking: “It’s so hard losing weight and sticking with it, I’m just not ready to do it all again.”
Staying put where you are now, what kind of life is that? In telling yourself these things above, how is it inspiring you into action? The truth is that this type of self-blame, shame, or not feeling worthy is just allowing you to stay stuck. Yes, absolutely facing fears and putting in the work can be a road block to feeling motivated to change.

Take a moment to think:

  • What are you expecting the weight loss process to look like?
  • Are you expecting that you have to jump in ALL at one time and go from eating
    whatever you want now to eating only broccoli and chicken until you reach your
    goal weight?
  • That you have to wake up at 5 am and workout, hardcore, 60-minutes every morning
    when you cant even remember the last time you moved your body for longer than 5
    minutes at one time?

Anything like these thoughts listed above creates a very harsh and drastic approach that an emotional eater will use to create a backlash of self-sabotage and binge eating. This harsh approach in not long-lasting and is not what we do at Blissfully Healthy.

What if you really saw that it CAN BE different for you? What if the whole weight loss process and overcoming emotional eating can actually look different and is EASIER than what you have done before? What are you expecting this process to look like?

When you work on overcoming the emotional eating, one step at a time, the journey is EASIER and FASTER. Releasing the weight for good is easier when you are not fighting the emotional eating. The hard road is doing what you have always done–another diet and another diet failure.
It’s time to get out of your own way!

I invite you to consider:

  • Why do you want to try again?
  • What are you expecting the weight loss process and overcoming emotional eating
    to be like?
  •  What if it could be different?
  • Looking at your past experiences and learning from those, this does not have to be an all or nothing approach. What facts or evidence can you stack up to start seeing that you can do this?There will never be the perfect time to get started on your weight loss, and more importantly, your emotional eating recovery journey. When you are ready, know that honoring your self is the greatest gift that you can give to you and the people you love.

Start thinking about:

* What would you like to change?
* Why do you want to make this change?
* What gets in the way of you achieving the results you want?

Remember the Daily Boost journal you started? Write down your thoughts to help you create your answers as well as writing down anything that inspires you!

ANCHOR STATEMENT

“JUST for TODAY, I consider all the facts and reasons why I can do this! Just for today I consider why I want to do this. Just for today I consider that it can look different for me. Just for today I am willing to try, knowing that I am good enough. I AM WORTHY of having the best health and happiness that I yearn for! Just for today I am worthy no matter how many times I have tried before in my life to change. I am worth it to live the life I love. Just for today I give my self permission to be worth this! I am allowed to have my ONE life be the best it can be!”

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Behavior change is a process, and people often approach change from all the wrong angles.

BJ Fogg, a Stanford University professor, talks about 10 mistakes people make when trying to change their behavior.

Here is one of the mistakes:

Relying on willpower for long-term change. Imagine willpower doesn’t exist. That’s step #1 to a better future. Willpower is based on trying to control your behavior. Willpower is white-knuckling it. Willpower is temporary.

How have you seen this derail your wellness journey?

Instead, get to the roots of why you have the drive to engage in the unhealthy behavior in the first place.

What works?

Willingness!

Willingness NOT Willpower.

Just for today, I am willing to put the effort in to be healthy.

Do you struggle with wanting to set a weight loss goal but you find you’re not ready to follow through with it?

Be compassionate with yourself and let go of any “should’ve, could’ve, would’ve”thoughts as you go through your day today. Your journey to FREEDOM starts with self-forgiveness then moves to acceptance.That in itself is a great gift to yourself today. Accept that this is where you are in your journey, the progress you have accomplished and the work left to be done. This stops the tug-of-war inside.

With excitement and newness of stepping into more awareness of your weight problem, it can be easy to fall into harsh expectations “This time I am going to: start my weight loss off with no sweets for 30-days, go from walking 2,000 steps a day to walking 10,000 steps a day all at one time, start that new 700 calories a day diet…” Harsh expectations are based on a diet mentality, which we are going to be working on getting rid of.

When you start the weight-loss process with harsh expectations to follow, it can set yourself up to fail before you even start. So, as you set your intentions, check in with your emotions.

How does the expectation feel?
Does it feel harsh, strict or does your body feel tense?

Or maybe you feel overly excited and at the same time feel a sense of pressure?
This might be because you are in a false high. A false high comes from the thinking or promise, that a diet will fix your weight problem. It will fix it by doing it all at once, in a harsh way and that it will fix your weight problem FAST! It might
sound something like this:

“I just need to drink those weight-loss shakes and exercise really hard for three weeks to get a ‘jump start’.Then once I see weight loss I will be more motivated to keep going. I just need to force myself do it!”

The truth is a harsh expectation or a false high diet promise will not solve your weight problem when emotional eating is causing the weight problem to begin with.

So, what will?

If you feel lighter, excited and finding yourself taking action steps towards your
weight-loss goal you are on the right track! Intentions like thinking about when
you will start, considering how you will take small steps at a time, and what is
going to be best for you. This is how you want to feel. Like it is something you
can do until you are 70 years-old or older! Make your intention one that feels
like a breath of fresh air and light in your heart, not feeling like it is choking
you or leaving you wondering how you are going to muster up the willpower and energy to accomplish it.

Your intention over the next few weeks could be to simply read these Daily Boosts
every day and ponder the information and questions in each.

Your intention could be that by being committed to just reading and pondering these
Daily Boosts that you will be inspired to change by day 30, or sooner.

If you are not sure what you would like your intention to be, here are a few questions
below to help you get the ball rolling. You don’t have to get it all figured out
right now.

Start thinking about
  1. What would you like to change?
  2. Why do you want to make this change?
  3. What gets in the way of you achieving the results you want?

Start a Daily Boost journal to help you create your answers and write down anything
that inspires you!

ANCHOR STATEMENT

“I accept where I am currently in my journey my size _____, my ______ pounds and
where I am emotionally. Today, I consider what I will do as my weight loss solution
from a place of love and compassion for where I am now. I know falling into the
diet surfing and looking for a new diet to ‘fix’ me will not solve my weight problem.

I am making my intention filled with love and compassion for myself and I am grateful for the body I have. I am setting my intention around my weight loss journey, one that is associated with emotional freedom. There is more to life than losing weight and I am ready to experience it!”

Make it a Blissfully Healthy Day!
With Love Always,
Coach Emmie

Do you know how to lose weight?

Do you know that if you consistently ate healthier and moved your body more you would most likely lose weight? Yes, of course!

Most of the women I work with know what the basics are to losing weight. Over the past eight years I have worked with smart and educated women just like yourself! I have coached women in a variety of professions from teachers, executive directors, stay-at-home moms, nurses, marriage counselors and even nutritionists.

Why is it that both you and these other women know how to lose weight, but you’re not doing the behaviors that would result in weight loss? You may even be a professional dieter and know all the calorie levels and portion sizes of food. The truth is that it is not a knowledge issue.

Most women know that they need to eat healthier and move their body more. When you find yourself not doing it–or using food to cope with stress–there is a gap that needs to be addressed! Or, you may even be resistant and not wanting to do the things that you know would help you drop the weight. Either way it is ok, I understand. I was once there myself.

Over the next few months I’m going to begin to talk about and help you understand this gap.

Today I would like you to know…REALLY know, that all those weight loss programs that you have done, all those ‘failed diet attempts’ and regaining the same pounds over and over again was not due to YOUR failure but instead what you NEEDED was not included in that diet. The diet’s failed you.

Because, you see, a diet will not help you overcome an emotional eating issue. A diet deals only with food and activity, NOT an emotional issue. I want you to know even if just for today, you are not alone in your struggles and your weight problem is not because you are not smart enough or educated enough.

To overcome an emotional eating problem you need to have a comprehensive approach that is one step at a time; addressing the mental, emotional, nutritional and physical aspects while providing REAL tools so that you CAN let go of the need to use food a little more each day.

Know that you are not alone. Decide that today you are letting go of the self-blame and beating yourself up about past diet failures. Just for today, be kind to yourself.

This one is the kicker! It is the one that without it, you will get stuck along your weight loss journey. This is the one that makes all the difference. This is the Key that will allow for ALL 5 Keys work so that you CAN stay motivated and get results!

“Why can’t I get motivated?” “Why can’t I stick to anything long enough to get results?” “Why can’t I stop over eating?” Start to untangle the answers to these questions by going through the 5 Keys to GETTING and STAYING Motivated Video series. Here is Key number 3!

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No matter what your goal – from healthy lifestyle to releasing weight to your work life or home life or whatever the key to success is in finding your motivation and staying motivated all the way through the process. Don’t give up!

Our healthy journey starts with motivation and the desire for change!  In this four week series of Wellness Wednesday tips we are talking about the 5 Keys to Motivation!  Are you lacking motivation? Contact us today for a complimentary discovery session to see how we can help!