It’s not about the food. It’s not about knowing “what” you should do and “making” yourself do it. Freedom and a sustainable blissfully healthy lifestyle comes from identifying and healing emotional eating.

Does Julie’s emotional eating story speak to you?

“Julie” came to Blissfully Healthy for coaching because she felt frustrated and helpless. Even though she knew eating a lot of sugar and candy bars were not something that would bring her health and vitality, she had an insatiable craving every night to have one.

Every night Julie would get a hankering to get a candy bar on her way home from a long day at work. Every day the inner dialogue would be an inner battle. This is what it sounded like:

“Candy bars are bad. I want to lose weight. I shouldn’t eat candy bars. I shouldn’t eat candy bars. They are so bad for me. UGH! … But I WANT the candy bar. Screw it! I don’t care. I had a horrible day. Ok just this last time, then starting tomorrow I won’t have any candy bars every again.”

One candy bar would turn into two, and then into anything she wanted to eat for the rest of the night. A typical weight loss coach would talk about strategies and things to do to distract, and in some ways we do that here at Blissfully Healthy as well. But those strategies – no matter how good – aren’t likely to stick unless we get to the root of the problem.

In one of our private coaching sessions we used an emotional tool together and found her core attachment to food that was driving emotional eating. When she was 4 years old her mom and dad got divorced. She remembers feeling an immersible hole where once there was a connected, secure relationship with her Dad, now completely vanished. Suddenly and without warning he was out of her life, and remained so for over a decade. Julie’s Mom went into a deep depression and became emotionally and many times even physically unavailable to meet her basic needs as Julie’s mom struggled even just to get out of bed some days.

Julie remembers being so lonely, lost and hungry. One of these times she discovered a drawer in the kitchen full of candy cars and ate one. She remembers feeling an immediate comfort and joy from the sweetness, and her immense hunger subsided. The emotional pain she didn’t understand at 4 years of age melted away for a few minutes as she enjoyed that candy bar.

As time went on, whenever she felt alone in those early years she would go to that drawer and eat a candy bar. Ever since that day she has struggled with sugar, especially candy bars.

As we used the emotional tool together in her private coaching session, Julie noticed a profound inner shift. “I feel like a heavy weight I have been carrying around with me has just been lifted.”

Her body relaxed into the couch. She took a deep breath. She left that session no longer craving candy bars. The urge that she had been fighting for decades and trying to control with countless diets was just gone. It dissolved as we discovered the subconscious driving emotional need the emotional eating was trying to fulfill.

As we continued our work together in private and group coaching over the coming months, she remarked that she didn’t even want candy bars most days and when she did, she could eat a bite or two and stop without fighting herself. Now that we had dismantled the emotional attachment to food, she was easily able to make nutritional changes from a place of willingness – and it became a joyful thing to release weight! We spoke very recently; not only was she able release over 40 pounds, she has maintained her weight loss over the past 2 years!

Not everyone’s reason for emotional eating is this deep or extreme, but for some it is even deeper. Everyone is different.

Yes, nutrition matters. Moving your body matters. But the results will not stick unless the emotional work is done. This is the type of work most people simply cannot do alone. We need someone to walk along with us, guide us, create an emotionally safe space for us and empower us to release these attachments.

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We add-in emotional tools and dismantle attachments to food, so now food just becomes food. Food is fuel, not therapy! Private coaching is about releasing emotional eating coupled with nutritional guidance that naturally effects weight loss as a side effect of healing emotional eating.

Extra weight is a symptom of emotional eating. Emotional eating is a symptom of a need to self-soothe. So we discover what is causing that need in a safe place of private coaching or women’s only group coaching. Many times clients choose a combination of private and group coaching for the additional feeling of communal support and empathy it creates.

The Blissfully Healthy coaching program is about creating food freedom, not food restrictions! You can eat a potato chip and not want any more. Where you can have your previous binge foods in front of you and not even be tempted. Not that you can’t eat them, simply because you don’t want any – because you’re making loving choices for your body, instead.

Clients find they look forward to using the emotional tools because they provide immediate relief – and more effective relief. Stay with me here, I know what you’re thinking: “I can’t imagine anything providing an emotional escape better than food. No way!”

But I’m telling you that it’s true. When you change your mindset and adopt emotional tools, you no longer have a “food scarcity” mentality. There is no more forcing yourself, no mustering up the willpower or kicking yourself to do the healthy things. You no longer crave hours sitting on the couch in front of the TV or numbing out with a sugary treats. Instead you crave using your emotional tools. You look forward to moving your body. You want to cook and enjoy healthy food.

You enjoy eating delicious food without losing control because we’ve identified and healed the core issues around food and your body, so you can let go of the drive to use food. There is nothing left to control. This is why I always say, “It’s not about controlling emotional eating, it’s about releasing it.”

If you’re ready to take a step toward your own journey of healing and a blissfully healthy life, a free one-hour discovery session is my gift to you. Simply request a coaching session using the form on my contact page or use the button to schedule your session today. 

If you’re a secret eater, you’re not alone. I used to secretly eat sugar out of a bag with a spoon when I could not find anything sweet to eat.

I could not stick to any diet. In fact, I dieted my way up the scale until I found myself 50 pounds overweight.

When I decided to stop dieting, stop looking for the next quick fix and INSTEAD decided to solve the emotionally eating… MY EATING CHANGED! My life changed. My weight changed.

I’m not perfect, I don’t expect myself to be perfect or eat perfectly clean. I don’t expect myself to exercise intensely every day but now I do WANT to eat healthy and exercise most of the time because it’s a loving thing to do for myself.

That is sustainable for the rest of my life!

What is sustainable for you to do for the rest of your life?

That, in my opinion, is what really matters.

That is how it is possible to be healthy and keep weight off. Life is so much better on the other side!

If you are struggling, I get it. Please know you are alone, it is not hopeless! This transformation is possible for you too! Just know it’s possible. 💕

Breakfast: Turkey bacon, Orange, coffee with some unsweetened coconut milk and supplements.
Lunch: Chocolate protein shake with spinach
Dinner: Grassfed Lamb, Cabbage, and quinoa.
Exercise: 40 minutes around the track + 20 minutes on the elliptical.

Have a Blissfully Healthy Day!

With Love and Gratitude Always,

Emmie

are you a secret eater - you are not alone

We are 18 Days into the New Year!

What a fun time of year! It’s such a great time to reflect and think about what is working and what is not working. It’s also a prime time to set weight loss goals and diet surf to find the perfect, magic, sure-fire diet that will finally do it for you.

With the New Year here it’s easy for many to get tempted to set ridge resolutions like: “This year I am really going lose this weight. I am going to do it all! No matter how much I suffer I will go on my no sugar, no gluten, no eggs, no food diet starting Monday.”

Any of that sound familiar? Too many years were started off this way for me as well only to find myself devastated from another diet failure and stuck in diet backlash overeating by mid-February.

Until I decided to do something different.

It can be very helpful to use the natural momentum of this time of year to be inspired to change in 2018. Just make sure that there is not a false high feeling from getting back into the all or nothing, perfectionist diet mentality. No need to lose the weight in an all or nothing way. You’ve done that 10, 20 years or more, it hasn’t worked. Let’s do something different this year.

Resolutions can be are very rigid and not supportive to the emotional eater who is trying to release the weight for good. Resolutions are very all or nothing. It has a sense of “never again, ever will I do…” You either hit the resolution perfectly or you don’t. Success or failure. Too stressful!

So instead of resolutions, I encourage you to set INTENTIONS for this year. Maybe it is just one area of life where you hone in on. Small shifts in behavior can create big results!

So instead of that resolution, “I will to lose 50 pounds this year. I will stick perfectly to my new diet.”

• Ask yourself: Why?
Why do you want to lose weight?
What is the feeling you will have by being 50 pounds lighter?

Let’s say you want to feel more confident more attractive in your body.

Turn this into an intention: ‘This year my intention is to create more health and vitality so that I feel more confident and attractive in my body. I will choose to eat healthier more of the time by adding in more healthy meals and moving my body more to achieve that. One step at a time, one day at a time I trust my transformation will happen!’

Intentions help you to live out of the extremes of the all or nothing mentality. Getting out of the extremes is where LIFE HAPPENS and permanent weight loss happens. Intentions ground you in the PRESENT and CONNECT you to what the underlying feeling is which will INSPIRE you to be willing to achieve your intention, one step at a time.

You got this!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Here’s to a year of INTENT!

With Love Always,
Emmie Perez

Emotional Eating Coach - What is emotional eating?
P.S. Would you like to have access to coaching support at your convenience?  You are invited to join the ‘Lighten Up!’ Blissfully Healthy Membership Group for just $47 per month.

Here is a quick overview of the current program:

  • 1- 1 hour Group Q&A Coaching Calls Per month ( Will be recorded if you can’t attend live)
  • 1- Live Cooking Class per month
  • Monthly Topic-Specific Coaching Videos
  • Monthly Wellness Challenges with Monthly Prizes
  • Special Savings on other offerings
  • Healthy Recipes
  • Baseline Supplement Suggestion Plan
  • Suggested Healthy Eating Plan
  • Secret Facebook Group
  • Quarterly Suggested Book to read as a group
  • Support from Emmie and other FB group members!
  • the outcome is to strengthen your skills around eating, health, and overcome the self sabotage.

Contact me for more information.