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In coaching, we work on discovering and dismantling emotional attachments to food. Emotional tools learned in coaching offer women an even more effective way to self soothe – without the guilt that comes from misusing food.

Why work with an emotional eating coach?

Learning the emotional tools I use in emotional eating coaching helps women change their relationship with food, so they can eat less and release weight – weight that won’t come back – because the new emotional tools and mindset now live where emotional eating used to happen. When clients emotionally eat less, weight loss happens and becomes sustainable.

It’s a profound internal shift. We have to consciously learn how to feel.

Are you thinking “Ah! No, I will die if I feel! If I start crying, I will never stop! I’d rather use food than feel my feelings that just sounds downright miserable!”

I know, I was once there too!

This is why I’m so convinced that it’s important to have support to walk alongside you. When you have support it feels safer and we even add FUN in! Many clients say they feel better immediately after we start doing the work together in private or group coaching.

If you have had enough dead ends with diets, if you’re sick of losing and gaining the same weight over and over, if you’re willing to feel and put the effort into using the tools, you will feel better quickly. You can release the emotional weight you been carrying with you for decades.

When we release the emotional weight, we release the physical weight.

We have to consciously practice feeling without spiraling down into shame or despair. That’s what I teach women how to do as a certified emotional eating coach.

I believe a Woman’s weight is a direct reflection of how happy or unhappy she is.

This was the cause for me. In 2004 I was extremely depressed and 50 pounds heavier. That’s when I decided to stop dieting and do what I needed to learn how to feel.

Aren’t you tired of the same diet yo-yo?  Going on another diet won’t heal the emotional eating. If the emotional eating is not addressed it will continue to pop up again over and over. And the weight roller coaster ride will continue. Ugh! Let’s do something different. Let’s do something that actually works. Let’s release the weight and keep it off.

What’s the difference between a weight loss coach and an emotional eating coach?

Most health and weight loss coaching is based on making changes with how much to eat and what to eat (and what not to eat) for the purpose of weight Loss. Weight loss is the focus.

In emotional eating coaching, using emotional tools, discovering and dismantling emotional attachments to food and adding in new healthy habits one at a time is the focus, and the result is weight loss.  Weight loss that is sustainable.

What are the benefits of working with an emotional eating coach vs. trying to go it alone?

Most diets entail removing, restricting, eliminating, tracking, weighing and depriving ourselves of food. It often comes up for us in thoughts or statements like these:

  • You can eat this…. But not this!
  • What’s “legal” to eat on my diet?
  • I’m not “allowed” to have that.
  • Move more, eat less.
  • How many points do I have left today?

For emotional eaters, all of these new rules might make it even harder to lose weight!

When we do these kinds of diets without first releasing the emotions around food we end up using willpower, force and pressure. All things that are temporary.

It’s not about nutrition accountability or giving you another diet. Yes, nutrition matters. And we do work on that together but it is a very different process.

Controlling or restricting food while there is still an emotional attachment to food will eventually lead to a backlash binge. The bigger the restriction, the bigger the backlash binge! So we go a different route.

To heal emotional eating we have to come out of the closet about it. We have to release the shame.  We do that by giving ourselves permission to get support. When we hear it from other women in group coaching oh it’s powerful!! Be free of the shame!

Download my free eBook: Why Diets Don’t Work

Why did I become a certified emotional eating coach?

I became a certified emotional eating coach (certified eating psychology coach) because my own experience in healing from emotional eating and losing weight revealed there is a huge gap in the support and programs available to women.

All the support I found was food-focused and that always made it worse.  As a previous Program Director and Center Director for a major weight loss corporation for over 5 years, my heart grew weary of seeing so many women coming back regaining their weight.  Each time they came back they restarted at a higher and higher weight.  Each time they came back I could see they felt more shame and more shame, saying: “Why can’t I stay motivated?“  Why is it that I know what to do but I am not doing it?

I had found my solution.  I found food freedom! I released emotional eating and with it – the extra 50 pounds.  My heart longed to coach other women at a deeper level. Doing it mostly on my own took me 10 years, which demonstrates the gap and why so many women need this kind of support instead of just another diet to fail at.

I could see there were so many women suffering in silence. With the support of my amazing husband and family we took a huge leap of faith. I became a certified emotional eating coach and a certified eating psychology coach and opened my own business: The Blissfully Healthy Women’s Wellness Center. After a few years and working with hundreds of clients at Blissfully Healthy I created my own program – Living Blissfully Healthy.

Although my qualification is Certified Eating Psychology Coach, working with me is like working with a Life Coach, Health Coach, Nutritionist and Counselor, because what affects your food effects your whole life, and your life affects your food.

If you’re ready to take a step toward your own journey of healing and a blissfully healthy life, a free one-hour discovery session is my gift to you. Simply request a coaching session using the form on my contact page or use the button to schedule your session today. 

 

 

Almost everyone emotionally eats at one time or another, so let’s take the shame out of it! Here are some emotional eating statistics shared by the American Psychological Association:

  • 38% of adults say they over-ate or ate unhealthy foods in the past month because of stress (half of these say they do it every week or even more frequently)
  • 33% of adults who over-ate or ate unhealthy foods because of stress said it helped to distract them from stress
  • 27% of adults say they eat to manage stress; one-third of these say it’s a habit

And perhaps not surprising:

  • 57% of overweight adults self-report frequent emotional eating (study)

Emotional eating happens. It might be just grabbing a few extra pieces of candy as you pass by the break room at the office because you’re bored. It might be simply eating larger portions at meals than your body needs to get to that “full” feeling. And yes, it might be eating a whole pizza or eating a whole carton of ice cream in one sitting.

What is an emotional eating coach?

Yep – emotional eating happens. If it’s happening to you, you are not alone.

The intention of Emotional Eating Coaching is to help you identify what’s causing emotional eating, eliminate unnecessary emotional stressors and create better coping mechanisms for those that cannot be eliminated, so that you can be in control of food (and not the other way around). So you can heal from emotional eating and come to a point where you are blissfully healthy, inside and out!

I understand this better than many people because I’ve been there. I went to counseling, OA, FAA, became a vegetarian for 2 years, then a vegan, went to several nutritionists, tried every fad diet you can think of and even desperately searched out eating disorder help for emotional eating.

Nothing worked. I’d even find myself emotional eating MORE after each counseling session or accountability appointment with a nutritionist. Why? Because mere accountability with food choices is not enough. It’s the wrong type of accountability. In fact, this type of accountability can actually trigger emotional eating – it did for me!

I remember one counselor telling me, “Emmie, you need to stop using food and learn how to feel.” I thought, “That sounds miserable! I’m not going to do that. Without emotional eating, without my food, how will I cope? How will I emotionally survive?

Hating my body and the extra 50 pounds I was carrying, I asked her, “How exactly do I feel?”  She couldn’t tell me. The next counselor, and then next nutritionist couldn’t ether.

How I Went from Emotional Eater to Emotional Eating Coach

So I went on a journey to discover how to feel. And I did! I worked with life coaches and read hundreds of books; most importantly, I discovered specific processes of how to feel without spiraling into shame or depression.

Using emotional tools to find immediate emotional release, I found I felt soooooo much better than when I used food, and the cravings to emotionally eat vanished. After decades of misery I found true food freedom, which is how I healed my own emotional eating and released 50 pounds.

How does an emotional eating coach help?

I’ve been coaching clients since 2007. As an emotional eating coach, I specialize in helping women who struggle with emotional eating and their weight. Coaching is focused on learning, practicing and implementing simple and effective daily emotional tools. These emotional tools can then become automatic responses to situations and emotions.

Where emotional eating used to be there are now emotional tools. These tools create a new mindset around food and equip the women I work with to navigate through emotions without needing food to cope. They help to provide immediate relief from difficult emotions, dissolve emotional eating cravings and help women stay inspired to make blissfully healthy choices.

One baby step at a time. Learning how to feel… better.  Learning how to express what you need to say instead of using food to stuff down your emotions. Emotional eating happens out of an attempt to self soothe, but then only creates more guilt and stress.

In coaching, we take a look at why emotional eating is happening so that the inner war with food ends. It’s not about the food. It’s about learning to feel!

Your journey to healing from emotional eating can start today. Let’s set up a free, no-risk discovery session for you here at the Blissfully Healthy Women’s Wellness Center or virtually, online, and talk about whether private Emotional Eating coaching could be right for you.

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Are you ready to stop hating yourself?

Ready to change the relationship you have with your body? Are you ready to be happy and finally achieve the wellness you’ve always wanted?

Hello, my name is Coach Emmie, owner of Blissfully Healthy Women’s Wellness Center,where I specialize in helping women break free from emotional eating and redesign their lifestyle so that they finally love their body and the life they are living.

I have been in your shoes. I overcame body hatred and emotional eating and as a side effect, I released 50 pounds.  I know the pitfalls of trying to control emotional eating and hating every inch of my body. And, especially understand the ins and outs of overcoming emotional eating. Since finding my solution to my emotional and physical wellness, I’ve dedicated my life to helping other women who have these same struggles achieve the same results!

Where do you start in order to have a breakthrough in emotional eating?

In my experience of coaching hundreds of women over the past 10 years, one of the first things that creates a breakthrough is loving you. Stop body shaming yourself. OK, before you click “delete” let me explain a little more.

I know what you are thinking, “How can I love myself the way I am now?  I hate my body! There is no way I would love myself the way I am now, besides if I allow myself to love me now, then I fear I will just be even more out of control with food!”

I understand. I get you. I know this step may be very scary for you. The truth is that YOU CAN’T HATE YOURSELF HAPPY. Hating yourself actually keeps you stuck in unhealthy habits, emotional eating and not having the desire to do the healthy things like making healthier food choices, moving your body, or taking time for you. What you need is a little relief, comfort, and acceptance. So that is where we start in overcoming and breaking through!

How do you begin to love yourself?

I have just the thing to help you bridge the gap from hating yourself to loving yourself. Most women honestly are not able to go from hating to love themselves overnight. So, to break through the self-hate and body shaming thoughts, we start with baby steps.

Your first baby step is acceptance.

If you can’t feel love for yourself, then start with acceptance. Start with accepting who you are now and where you have been. If you don’t feel willing to accept yourself the way you are now, today, start with PARTS of you. Make a list every day of three things you accept about yourself—your features or your character. This will begin re-training your brain to look more towards the positive. Start giving yourself a little relief so that your desire to do the healthy things: think kinder thoughts, eat healthier, move your body more, will start to flow again.   Yes, being kind to you actually inspires motivation!

Once you are grounded in acceptance then move to liking yourself or liking parts of you. Then the liking yourself easily transforms to loving yourself!

You see this journey HAS to be built on unconditional love for yourself, the you, you are now, today, instead of hate or conditional love. What you have been doing has not worked. Hating yourself has not worked. In fact, if you are like many of the women I work with the hating yourself may actually be causing you to be more emotional and then to want to emotional eating more, spend more, or drink more; leading to more thoughts that beat you down .. a body hatred cycle! The hating yourself is keeping you stuck in emotional eating and unhappiness.

Let go of the hate and body shaming. Start accepting the you that you are right now…the you that you are today. Because, you are enough and lovable just the way you are. Stop the self-hate. Start accepting yourself.  Start liking yourself.  Start loving yourself and you will naturally achieve your ideal wellness!

The journey to your personalized wellness solution is an inside job. Your breakthrough has to be based in being kind to yourself and eventually truly loving who you are no matter your size or weight. That unconditional love for yourself helps you stay willing to do the healthy behaviors that lead to your ideal wellness.

Here is an example:

Just for today I accept:

  1.    I have curly blonde hair.
  2.    That I have beautiful blue eyes.
  3.    I have cankles and I accept them! I am grateful for my cankles, because I will never have ankle problems because they are strong!

Give yourself this gift. Take just one baby-step forward. What are your 3 things you accept about yourself? Take a moment to write yours down now.

Have a Blissfully Healthy Day!

With Love and Gratitude Always,  Coach Emmie Perez

P.S.   You’re invited to connect with me.  Together we will discover if coaching is the right fit for you from personalized coaching to a women’s-only community who understands the same issues you do.

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